With 65 percent of women with children under the age of 6 working outside the home (that’s about two times more than the previous generation), we have more to do and less time to do it. Specifically, about 9-plus hours are added to our days, but we have 13 fewer hours for ourselves.
Need help around the house? Below are a few tips to get even the most traditional spouses to help out around the house:
1) Make lists. Detail your own daily tasks both work and family-related. Then, ask your spouse to make a list of their own responsibilities. Is one list drastically longer? Seeing things in print tends to help, especially if one person is carrying most of the load.
2) Let him pick. Start with asking him to pick one small task he might be most comfortable with, whether it be reading to the kids at bedtime, dropping them off at school, or giving them a bath once a week. Start small and add tasks gradually. Sometimes all it takes for mom to get a break is a dad taking the kids out to play for 20 minutes.
3) Don’t criticize. Doyin Richards of DaddyDoinWork and author of new children’s book “I Wonder” suggests: “Let dads do things their way. Just because it’s different than you, doesn’t mean it’s wrong. Nobody wants to be reprimanded for putting in an effort — otherwise they might never want to do it again.” Just because dad might get the job done in a different way, it doesn’t mean the job won’t get done.
4) Gratitude goes a long way. Don’t forget to say thank you, no matter what!
Source: BabyCenter 21st Century Mom® Insight Series: 2015 State of Modern Motherhood Report, co-sponsored by IAB.
Jill Simonian is a Parenting Lifestyle Contributor and appears every Wednesday on CBS Los Angeles’ News at 5pm. Her personal blog is TheFabMom.com. Follow Jill on Twitter @jillsimonian and connect with her on Facebook.