Learn To Keep Your Emotions In Check This Holiday Season

STUDIO CITY (KCAL9) — Keep your emotions in check this holiday season.

Ken Lindner, owner of Ken Lindner and Associates, Inc. stopped by KCAL9 Monday to talk about "Your Killer Emotions: The 7 Steps to Mastering the Toxic Emotions, Urges, and Impulses that Sabotage You".

Here are some suggestions to keep emotions under wraps while at the company holiday event, family reunion or among the hustle and bustle of the holidays:

DO NOT make an important decision or choice when you are overcome by emotions or stress!

• Always, stop, cool down, and, as they say, "take the pause that refreshes."
• Additionally, DO NOT opt for an immediate, emotional quick fix, response, or retaliation. Oftentimes, we opt for these short-term satisfactions, but in the big picture of our lives, these unthinking, emotion- generated reactions are counter and highly detrimental to accomplishing what we truly want for ourselves in the long term (our Gold Ring Dreams).

Be "Consequence Cognizant," which requires you to carefully think about and vividly visualize:

• The most severe and heinous consequences that a poor/destructive emotionally-charged choice on your part can have on your life, your career and/or those you love
• The most positive, beneficial outcome(s) that you will secure because you took the requisite time to strategically choose the most constructive course of action.

If it is appropriate, try to truly understand where the other individual who is pushing your emotional buttons or evoking a potential toxic emotion-generated response from you is coming from.

• Strive to see things from their point of view. Chat with the person in issue, in an open and non-defensive manner. Oftentimes, learning where others are coming from brings understanding, as well as sympathy/empathy, which can diffuse and thereby lessen the strong energy charges generated within you by potentially toxic emotions.
• Another means to diffuse your emotion-generated energy charges, is to take a moment to think about all of the blessings and positives in your life.
• This can help you to cool down from the angst of the moment, so that you are then better able to think clearly and strategically.

You should NOT make important holiday choices when you are tired, experiencing high levels of stress, or have had too much caffeine.

• Additionally, you NEVER want to make important choices when you are under the influence of alcohol or clarity-impairing medicinal or recreational drugs. Your goal is to be cognitively clear and precise when making holiday choices. Therefore, you want to stay away from anything that can impair your cognitive processes.

What to take away:

• We all experience high levels of stress and potentially toxic emotions during the holidays. I use the word "potentially," because these emotions are toxic to you and your well-being, if they trigger destructive and/or self-sabotaging acts on your part.  What you want to do in these instances, is to not emotionally react in these situations, but to instead, strategically and constructively choose your actions. Channel the potential negative energies that you experience into positive, life-enhancing endeavors—thereby using your emotions and their energy charges as your valuable allies.
• The sweet result may well be that you will make positive, life-enhancing holiday choices, as well as gain (increased) feelings of high self-esteem, self-worth, and the core-confidence to achieve your most cherished goals.

"Your Killer Emotions" can purchased at Barnes & Noble or Amazon.