Could Holding Back In The Bedroom Spice Up Your Love Life?
LOS ANGELES (CBSLA.com) — A new trend in intimacy has local couples holding back in the bedroom. They say that this 'amazing' new spin on sex has made their lives better than ever.
Karezza, a form of love in which climax no longer plays a role, is growing in popularity. The trend is helping couples inject more spark into their sex lives, and has even helped repair broken marriages, according to relationship experts.
"Sex without orgasm is a wonderful way to reposition sex to be about expression of love, affection, a way to bond in a soulful was with a partner taking out all the pressure that turns it into a goal, an accomplishment," explained Dr Jane Greer.
The power of Karezza was discovered by Dr. Alice Bunker Stockham in 1896. The term is a variation of an Italian word, which means caress. As the name implies Karezza involves plenty of touching, but no climax.
The practice creates emotional intimacy that is deeper than the type experienced during conventional sex, according to Marnia Robinson, a wife of ten years.
"We've been kind of brain washed to think that the point of sex is orgasm, and we've forgotten everything we need to know about what actually bonds couples, and it turns out daily affection and generous touch are two of the things that really bond people," Robinson said.
Some experts told CBS2 that while they don't typically recommend Karezza, it can serve a purpose.
"I think as an option as part of your overall sexual repertoire, it can fit in really nicely," explained Dr. Jane Greer.
Practitioners of Karezza told CBS2's Rob Schmitt that their lovemaking never really ends, and the sexual energy continues to flow, even when they are apart.
Dr. Gary Stollman, a Beverly Hills marriage counselor says, Karezza creates "a greater connection. And not chasing 'The Big O' has its place as well."
The change may take some getting used to, but Karezza practitioners say the shift can reignite your love life.
A German tourist named Horst Henning told Schmitt, Karezza sounds like a lot of frustration to him. "And in the end, it doesn't sound like frustration would bring you closer to your partner."
